How to build a good relationship with your In-laws

You can build good relationships with your In-laws with quality time, communication, teamwork and appreciation.

Remember you don’t just marry a person; you marry his or her family.”

Treat Them As Family. Always look at your in-laws like they are your blood that will make it so much easier to get along. You have to work hard to make it important to all of you, though. It’s not always easy, but it has to matter enough to you to keep on working on it!

Build a Friendship. “Love them, I mean really love them. Build a friendship with them and include them in your life, not just in areas where your spouse is involved but in all areas. Pray for God to connect your families together also.”

Have Your Spouse Resolve Conflict. “When there is conflict between you and whomever, talk it over with your husband and he must be the one who talks to them. For one, they’re his family and he knows how to talk to them, and for two it takes him out of the middle – he doesn’t have to choose between you and them, he helps to resolve any conflict instead of letting one build.”

Protect Your Words. “Prayer, self-assessment, forgiveness, always be humble and protect your own words, they become a part of your life and last forever.

How long does it takes to know that you are ready for marriage?

We grow up hearing that you have to take time to know your partner before marrying him/her but the question is how long do you have to take time to know?will it be years,few months or is it any reason to wait?

Instead of focusing how long you guys have been dating, consider other ways to evaluate whether you’re both ready to be there for each other in a marriage .

Those ways are :

1.Do you know many sides of each other ?

Everyone has bad and good sides

Do you know most of hers/his?

Are you able to be with your partner after showing her/his side’s?

2.Have you tried to stay together before to know her/him better?

cohabitation will helps to get you guys to get used to each other,be able to understand each other better and be able to overcome most of problems you’ll come across in a marriage.

But only you can tell when you’re ready to tie the knot.it doesn’t matter if you guys met a day after,years ago or few months only you know !!

How can you tell if He really loves you?

With men actions speak louder than words…what he do will matter than what He says…

Saying “I love you” can be terrifying, so it’s entirely possible that he feels it, but is just afraid of saying it out loud. After all, few people willingly put themselves in such a vulnerable position. But you can’t live with this uncertainty – you need to find out, once and for all, if he loves you or not.

Here are signs/things that you can see from him of he really loves you or not,but know that men are different so they might not apply to your man.

1.compromising-Being in a relationship means making sacrifices sometimes by compromising with another person. That means, sometimes he gives a little more, and sometimes you give a little more. For instance, it may mean he’s willing to go see a movie that he knows he’s not going to like, while you’re willing to go to the sport’s bar sometimes, even if it’s not your thing. If he’s willing to participate in some give and take, then he’s probably starting to fall in love with you.

2.communication-

communicates. If he only calls once a week and barely has anything to say, that’s probably not a good sign. However, if he spontaneously texts, emails, and calls on a regular basis, then he probably can’t get you out of his mind, meaning he loves said.

However, every guy is different. Maybe he’s an introvert, and he doesn’t like to spend every minute with another person, even someone he loves. Make sure you try to figure out what kind of person he is before jumping to conclusions.

3.showing respect-. If your boyfriend loves you, he will treat you with respect. That means that he listens to you and cares about what’s going on in your life. He notices the little things that you like and goes out of his way to give them to you. He values you as a person, and he genuinely listens to your opinions. Doing these things shows he honestly cares about you.

Rebuilding trust after cheating

Being cheated is something that we all don’t want to go through,some it it automatically break up to them after being cheated and some stay to work out things together as a couple and after cheating we obviously know that trust is the first thing that our partner lose.

some things could be done to rebuild trust even though it will take time and will patience, loyalty,honesty and determition.

1. Take full responsibility for your actions and choices. This means taking a deep, hard look at why you cheated and how you can make sure you never cheat again.

2.Communicate openly. Find out what your partner needs. Really listen to them. Be honest with your partner about what you need. Are you willing and able to meet your partner’s needs, and vice versa? If not, it might be time to reconsider whether staying in the relationship is right for both of you.

3.keep your promises.call if you say you’ll call,be there if you said you’ll be there.it shows she/his worthy.

4.Give your partner space. They will be angry and hurt about what you did, and they have a right to feel and express their feelings.

5.Seek professional help regarding this matter,you may find it at couple counseling,a pastor at church or an elderly people who are in a long term relationship.

But ones last thing…

Cheating is never an excuse to be abusive toward your partner. There is no excuse for abuse.

Cheating does not mean your partner has no right to privacy anymore. It’s not healthy to demand that they shavernight. However, like we said above, your partner does not have the right to be abusive toward you, and you still have a right to your own privacy.

What men want in a relationship

It has been about women for the past few weeks now it’s time we know what men want in a relationship.

well i guess this varies as men, but what I personally would want if I was a man would be in a relationship where I would be challenged, grow and feel I am making a difference. I would want a relationship absent of games and power struggles and full of unconditional love and respect. I would want to be loved for who I am, not for who I could or should be. Men want commitment. They really are not that confusing but will only commit to a woman who is not out to control him with man-management. Men do not need someone to control and mother them and when this happens it is an instant turn-off. Nor do men want a woman who is at all needy or desperate for him to be the source of her happiness. So what makes men tick and how you can you empower yourself to have the relationship you want? Well that’s me as a woman thinking that would I want in a relationship “if I was a man”

“What do you, as a man, want? There are no right answers, only your truth”perhaps you could share or agree/disagree to what I said above about what you men want want in a relationship

Love,respect, commitment, space, intimacy and a woman who knows where she is going in life…

No intimacy in relationship?


No intimacy in relationship? These might be the consequences.

By lack of intimacy, we don’t mean sex alone.Emotional intimacy is also important for any relationship.

Intimacy doesn’t just up and disappear in a relationship. If couples with this problem take the time to trace its origins, they’ll discover that the disconnection didn’t just happen. It is usually a slow process that creeps up and accumulates over a period of time.
So, how does intimacy die in a relationship?

Here are the possible causes!


1. Physical and emotional disconnection

Sexual intimacy disappears as soon as a couple stops connecting on a physical level. This usually happens when they stop spending quality time together. Sex could become just another chore, and in extreme cases, sex could stop altogether

2. Stress



2. Stress

Stress is another possible cause of no intimacy in marriage. Sexual desire can go once the man or the woman is stressed.

if as a couple can be able to notice that intimacy in your relationship has decreased and investigate the cause and take action to overcome that your relationship will last. Building chemistry is important also

Chemistry is one of the most important aspects of a relationship. It’s more than attraction; it’s that spark that draws you to one another. But it’s not the only thing that’s important in relationships.trusting your partner to be open about this matter will help also.


What women need from men in a relationship

“A woman that loved and treated well she becomes ten Times beautiful than she is”

There are many different things that women need from men in a relationship, but some of the most important things are:

To be able to look up to him and respect him as her man.

To feel loved and appreciated.

To feel accepted for who she is deep down inside.

To feel supported.

To feel like she’s beautiful in his eyes.

To feel that the love between her and her man is growing stronger and deeper over time.

To feel safe knowing that her man is guiding them both to a better future.

Every individual—man or woman—is a better person when they’re with someone. Blame it on Socrates theory of soul mates, or just plain bias; but, when two people are together, as one, they’re a lot better at managing everything and everyone in their lives, including their own selves. It’s like having a mirror with you constantly, to reflect your thoughts, feelings and actions.lastly intimacy,lot of romance from you men.

How to overcome misunderstanding in a relationship

Misunderstandings are a part of everyday couple’s life. And if we don’t learn how to manage them, they manage us and we’ll soon be embroiled in perpetual conflict.

In fact, misunderstandings are one of the most common roadblocks to happiness in relationships,by making several adjustments to how you communicate, you can prevent and solve misunderstandings much more effectively.Listening is an important skill in developing and maintaining a relationship, listening carefully to your partner is key to clearing up misunderstandings that are controlling your relationship.The other thing to talk the matter via telephone.

Avoid Electronic Communication

While text messaging and emails are popular ways of communicating, they can lead to misunderstandings in a relationship. It’s hard to empathize and identify as a couple when you can’t look into each other eyes.

Avoid being right all the time.

Try to be civilised and view things from your partner’s point of view so you can understand what He/she is trying to say to you.

Is polygamy a way of cheating better?

Polygamous relationship is being in a relationship/marriage with multiple partners that knows each others and agreed in being in that relationship from the word go.

So, are polyamorous people “cheating” on their partners? Nope. But this is a common misconception.

Cheating includes deception and betrayal, like if you and your partner have agreed not to have sex with other people, but your partner breaks that promise.

Usually polygamy is used as a belief in some of African people to get involved with multiple partners but

Infidelity(cheating) is not part of our beliefs and it is different from polygamy.

People must stop confusing the two, especially at a time when we are faced with the HIV-Aids pandemic because cheating might lead to bringing sickness to your partner so polygamy is not a way better of cheating.those two things are way different from each other.

Being in a relationship alone

Likely you will discover a number of interesting reasons why you’re feeling lonely in a relationship of yours. Often these reasons fall under the following categories:

  • Your partner isn’t spending enough intimate time with you.
  • Your partner is less caring than you.
  • Your partner is less committed than you.
  • Your partner isn’t paying enough attention to you.
  • Your partner doesn’t show gratitude for what you do.
  • Your conversations are purely transactional and have no depth.
  • Your partner doesn’t care about the same things you care about.

Have you noticed something that I mentioned here?

It can be difficult to determine the root of your lonesomeness. But the first step should be to talk to your partner about how you feel,tell your partner to be open to you if there is something that drift him/her apart from you.communication is the key in a relationship because sometimes we might think there is someone else that take his/her attention but it is just other things like work or studies.

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